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11 February 2011
03 May 2010
Ahlia's Birth Story
"Thank you" goes to my midwife apprentice, Janna Grapperhaus, for the labor notes that helped me detail this story. :-) Please feel free to ask me any questions about my pregnancy, labor, or delivery! You may comment here or contact me directly (see the About Me page).
Mon, 3/15/10 - Some surges/contractions in my lower back kept me up for a couple of hours. Finally fell back asleep after listening to my HypnoBirthing Rainbow Relaxation a couple of times. In the coming week, braxton hicks cx continued as they had for weeks...
Fri, 3/19/10 - Weekly checkup - 2 cm dilated, 20% effaced, 0 station. Cervix in a posterior position. Getting increasingly difficult to be comfortable sleeping.
Mon, 3/22/10 - Had some minor swelling over the weekend and gained 5 lb! Midwife wanted to see me. BP normal, 128/70. Need to push fluids and protein. 3 cm dilated, 50% effaced, 0 station, cervix more anterior. Great progress!
Tue, 3/23/10 - Saw a pink tinge of "birth show" late morning and increase in cervical fluid. Feeling a good bit of downward pressure after a surge. Could it happen in the next 2 days? Still no name chosen... Are we really going to be the parents of two any time now???
Thu, 3/25/10 - mw appointment. Actually, I'm 2 cm dilated. 3 cm measurements (above) is a different type of measurement (external vs. internal os). But... 70% effaced!
Fri, 3/26/10 - Sent Zyler to Grandmom's house until Sunday and Jason and I went out to eat at the Outback. My plate included: 6-oz sirloin, sweet potato, mixed veggies, and we shared a very rich peanut butter pie dessert. I really shouldn't have... I was so full! Also saw my friend J.B. there. She was not in a very good place emotionally, but as we chatted outside, she encouraged me and J. to "dtd" (abb. for "do the deed") that night. I had already been considering... maybe tonight, maybe tomorrow? We came home and did decide to, before retiring at 11 PM (2300)!
So, I put in my Rainbow Relaxation CD...
@ 2315, I had a couple of Braxton Hicks type contractions, and I felt a tiny "gush!" It was so small, that I wasn't sure if it was amniotic fluid or any other type of fluid... but I went ahead and called my midwife, Janna. At the time, she was an advanced student being supervised by 2 other women for my pregnancy who are both CPMs and CNMs. (I had a lot of knowledge and expertise at the ready!) She called them to check in and formulate a plan. We had tested with a couple of pH strips and determined that most likely my water broke! It happened that quickly. (J. said later that it was perhaps a coincidence. Did sex really get labor going?? Yes, I believe it did!) The "head" supervising midwife agreed that Janna should go ahead and come to my house to check things out. We agreed to let Jason sleep so that at least one parent was rested. He can be real sleep-deprived grump, anyway. :o)
Sat, 3/27/10, 0135 - Janna arrived. FHT (fetal heart tone) 126, baby LOP (left side, slightly posterior), ctx 10-15 minutes apart, lasting 30 seconds. Once again, as with baby Z., all ctx are felt in my very lower back near my tailbone... I stayed downstairs to labor while we let J. rest in our bedroom. I had to keep going in the room, though, to get labor supplies and woke him a few times.
After much debate, it is finally decided to do a sterile speculum exam to determine for sure if my water had broken. I would have preferred not to, but the supervising midwives wanted to be sure if the "clock" had started ticking or not so we could do everything possible to not need to do a hospital transfer at 12 hours out... So I got our dog, Indy, outside to get him out of the way.
0230 - sterile exam, lots of fluid pooling, vernix is visible (which I now realize I saw in my "earlier" waters), confirmed also on pH test that my waters had broken. Pulse 88, BP 128/82.
There was also debate about an induction via castor oil. Again, my caregivers were uneasy about my water being broken and the "clock" (I was also GBS+), and the supervising midwife really preferred induction via castor oil. In the end, I agreed to it. Janna uses herbs and homeopathy to induce so I had what you might say a triple whammy! I didn't mind too much this type of "intervention" (OK, I did mind the castor oil later on!), but I still wonder what my body might have done on its own...
0235 - 2 oz castor oil in root beer float
0250 - Hibiclens wash (for GBS+ treatment)
0258-0400 - series of herbs and homeopathic tinctures
0310 - FHT 136
0330 - 2nd dose - 2 oz castor oil in root beer float
0345 - ctx 8-10 min, 30-40 sec
0400 - FHT 142; ctx 6-8 min, 30-45 sec
0420-0435 - ctx were clearly picking up... I'm doing the low moaning with each one, as I had experienced with Z. Here is where I got queasy and tried to ignore my tummy cramping. Then I decided I really should let Janna know, and she got a pail for me "just in case." I'm lying on the couch listening to lovely Hypnobirthing music this whole time, and all of a sudden, good thing that pail was there. Up came that second root beer float! Poor Janna said she had quite a time cleaning the castor oil out of the pail! At this point my ctx really pick up and become much stronger and closer together.
Around this time (I think) I actively thought I might be in that intriguing "transition" period. I actually remember hitting that wall that some many women speak of and thinking during some ctx, "I don't know if I can do this!" I didn't tell Janna my thoughts as I was trying to stay "in my zone."
0430 - I believe this is when we woke Jason and told him to get the birth pool ready!
0444 - Janna calls supervising midwives; ctx 4-6 min, 45-60 sec
0500 - start moving upstairs! Had some strong ctx leaning against the walls... Janna canceled Jason on the birth pool set up. :( No time!
0523 - I got on the bed and Janna finally had a chance to check me. I'm at 10 cm, but with a fat cervical lip. I was really wanting to push, but she tells me to blow through the ctx so as not to tear my cervix and try to get the swelling on my cervix to reduce. I tried hands and knees but it was really uncomfortable during a ctx, so I get on my right side. While on hands and knees, though, I urinated a lot. I actually was a little confused as to what type of fluid it was... It surprised me so! But I remember Janna reassuring me that it was OK; the baby was descending. This was a relief as I had had a bit of anxiety about making sure my bladder was empty since it had gotten so full with Z's birth that I could not push him out without a straight cath.
Jason tries to call the 2 photographers we had lined up but neither answered their phones...
0535 - Midwife #2 arrives. Janna still telling me to blow through my ctx. Can I strangle her instead? ;-) FHT 136; ctx 3-5 min apart. J calls my mom to let her know "it's time." I wanted her to be able to be there to experience a normal birth. She thought he meant I was just going into labor, though, so she and dad were taking their time...
0543 - FHT 145
0545 - FHT 140s; midwives see small bits of baby hair at ctx peak! Can I get this baby out yet??
0554 - Midwife #1 arrives; Janna reduces the cervical lip by pushing it back over the baby's head. I actually felt a bit of relief in the pain when she does this. Time to actively push! I'm still on my right side...
0555-0603 - FHT remains in 130s-140s
0606 - FHT 150s; baby is crowning! The stretching of that tissue is such an intense feeling!
0608 - FHT 130s
0610 - FHT 110; full crown!
0611 - Mom's here! My dad stayed downstairs but she called him up. Poor Daddy, hope it wasn't too traumatic and awkward for you. At that point, getting ready to push her out, I don't think I would have cared what blood relative would have walked in.
3/27/10 0613 - I remember baby Z pretty much shooting out, but Ahlia's head came out and her body stopped! Her chunky shoulders were stuck... I looked down at my midwives, like, what do I do? Midwife #1 asked to give a big push, and Janna helped wiggle her shoulders out. My sweet Ahlia is in my arms! She still didn't have a name at that point, but "Baby Girl Kite" was good enough at the time. :)
I did receive a 2nd degree tear once again due to her chunky shoulders. Midwife #1 kindly and lovingly sutured me, and from what I can tell I have healed well!
I felt tired after laboring all night, but not even close to the fatigue I felt after the 15+ hour labor with Z when I was in "transition" for probably 10 hours!
Ahlia received a healthy exam with 8 and 9 apgar scores.
1200 - Finally, the effects of the first castor oil dose! I spent a half hour on the toilet, almost 6 hours after Ahlia's arrival! Ugh.
What an empowering experience! I still can not put it adequately into words. I felt very empowered with an almost natural birth with Z, but something about having her at home made a big difference. I trust birth, and I trust home birth is very safe for "low risk" pregnancies, so I know we made the right decision... It was not a decision made just for me to have "the comforts of home." I wish all women could better understand their options! I truly believe more women would choose birth with a midwife, be it at home or in a birth center.
Thank you, Janna, for everything! And thanks to the supervising midwives and all who helped us along the way. It was big journey for me and a quite stressful pregnancy. Now, the real fun - the infant stage (again) and raising a brother and sister! Ahlia, you are 5 weeks old now and have brought so much joy to our household already! Our family is so blessed!! Thanks be to God!
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| baby shower, 2/24/10 |
Fri, 3/19/10 - Weekly checkup - 2 cm dilated, 20% effaced, 0 station. Cervix in a posterior position. Getting increasingly difficult to be comfortable sleeping.
Mon, 3/22/10 - Had some minor swelling over the weekend and gained 5 lb! Midwife wanted to see me. BP normal, 128/70. Need to push fluids and protein. 3 cm dilated, 50% effaced, 0 station, cervix more anterior. Great progress!
Tue, 3/23/10 - Saw a pink tinge of "birth show" late morning and increase in cervical fluid. Feeling a good bit of downward pressure after a surge. Could it happen in the next 2 days? Still no name chosen... Are we really going to be the parents of two any time now???
Thu, 3/25/10 - mw appointment. Actually, I'm 2 cm dilated. 3 cm measurements (above) is a different type of measurement (external vs. internal os). But... 70% effaced!
Fri, 3/26/10 - Sent Zyler to Grandmom's house until Sunday and Jason and I went out to eat at the Outback. My plate included: 6-oz sirloin, sweet potato, mixed veggies, and we shared a very rich peanut butter pie dessert. I really shouldn't have... I was so full! Also saw my friend J.B. there. She was not in a very good place emotionally, but as we chatted outside, she encouraged me and J. to "dtd" (abb. for "do the deed") that night. I had already been considering... maybe tonight, maybe tomorrow? We came home and did decide to, before retiring at 11 PM (2300)!
So, I put in my Rainbow Relaxation CD...
@ 2315, I had a couple of Braxton Hicks type contractions, and I felt a tiny "gush!" It was so small, that I wasn't sure if it was amniotic fluid or any other type of fluid... but I went ahead and called my midwife, Janna. At the time, she was an advanced student being supervised by 2 other women for my pregnancy who are both CPMs and CNMs. (I had a lot of knowledge and expertise at the ready!) She called them to check in and formulate a plan. We had tested with a couple of pH strips and determined that most likely my water broke! It happened that quickly. (J. said later that it was perhaps a coincidence. Did sex really get labor going?? Yes, I believe it did!) The "head" supervising midwife agreed that Janna should go ahead and come to my house to check things out. We agreed to let Jason sleep so that at least one parent was rested. He can be real sleep-deprived grump, anyway. :o)
Sat, 3/27/10, 0135 - Janna arrived. FHT (fetal heart tone) 126, baby LOP (left side, slightly posterior), ctx 10-15 minutes apart, lasting 30 seconds. Once again, as with baby Z., all ctx are felt in my very lower back near my tailbone... I stayed downstairs to labor while we let J. rest in our bedroom. I had to keep going in the room, though, to get labor supplies and woke him a few times.
After much debate, it is finally decided to do a sterile speculum exam to determine for sure if my water had broken. I would have preferred not to, but the supervising midwives wanted to be sure if the "clock" had started ticking or not so we could do everything possible to not need to do a hospital transfer at 12 hours out... So I got our dog, Indy, outside to get him out of the way.
0230 - sterile exam, lots of fluid pooling, vernix is visible (which I now realize I saw in my "earlier" waters), confirmed also on pH test that my waters had broken. Pulse 88, BP 128/82.
There was also debate about an induction via castor oil. Again, my caregivers were uneasy about my water being broken and the "clock" (I was also GBS+), and the supervising midwife really preferred induction via castor oil. In the end, I agreed to it. Janna uses herbs and homeopathy to induce so I had what you might say a triple whammy! I didn't mind too much this type of "intervention" (OK, I did mind the castor oil later on!), but I still wonder what my body might have done on its own...
0235 - 2 oz castor oil in root beer float
0250 - Hibiclens wash (for GBS+ treatment)
0258-0400 - series of herbs and homeopathic tinctures
0310 - FHT 136
0330 - 2nd dose - 2 oz castor oil in root beer float
0345 - ctx 8-10 min, 30-40 sec
0400 - FHT 142; ctx 6-8 min, 30-45 sec
0420-0435 - ctx were clearly picking up... I'm doing the low moaning with each one, as I had experienced with Z. Here is where I got queasy and tried to ignore my tummy cramping. Then I decided I really should let Janna know, and she got a pail for me "just in case." I'm lying on the couch listening to lovely Hypnobirthing music this whole time, and all of a sudden, good thing that pail was there. Up came that second root beer float! Poor Janna said she had quite a time cleaning the castor oil out of the pail! At this point my ctx really pick up and become much stronger and closer together.
Around this time (I think) I actively thought I might be in that intriguing "transition" period. I actually remember hitting that wall that some many women speak of and thinking during some ctx, "I don't know if I can do this!" I didn't tell Janna my thoughts as I was trying to stay "in my zone."
0430 - I believe this is when we woke Jason and told him to get the birth pool ready!
0444 - Janna calls supervising midwives; ctx 4-6 min, 45-60 sec
0500 - start moving upstairs! Had some strong ctx leaning against the walls... Janna canceled Jason on the birth pool set up. :( No time!
0523 - I got on the bed and Janna finally had a chance to check me. I'm at 10 cm, but with a fat cervical lip. I was really wanting to push, but she tells me to blow through the ctx so as not to tear my cervix and try to get the swelling on my cervix to reduce. I tried hands and knees but it was really uncomfortable during a ctx, so I get on my right side. While on hands and knees, though, I urinated a lot. I actually was a little confused as to what type of fluid it was... It surprised me so! But I remember Janna reassuring me that it was OK; the baby was descending. This was a relief as I had had a bit of anxiety about making sure my bladder was empty since it had gotten so full with Z's birth that I could not push him out without a straight cath.
Jason tries to call the 2 photographers we had lined up but neither answered their phones...
0535 - Midwife #2 arrives. Janna still telling me to blow through my ctx. Can I strangle her instead? ;-) FHT 136; ctx 3-5 min apart. J calls my mom to let her know "it's time." I wanted her to be able to be there to experience a normal birth. She thought he meant I was just going into labor, though, so she and dad were taking their time...
0543 - FHT 145
0545 - FHT 140s; midwives see small bits of baby hair at ctx peak! Can I get this baby out yet??
0554 - Midwife #1 arrives; Janna reduces the cervical lip by pushing it back over the baby's head. I actually felt a bit of relief in the pain when she does this. Time to actively push! I'm still on my right side...
0555-0603 - FHT remains in 130s-140s
0606 - FHT 150s; baby is crowning! The stretching of that tissue is such an intense feeling!
0608 - FHT 130s
0610 - FHT 110; full crown!
0611 - Mom's here! My dad stayed downstairs but she called him up. Poor Daddy, hope it wasn't too traumatic and awkward for you. At that point, getting ready to push her out, I don't think I would have cared what blood relative would have walked in.
3/27/10 0613 - I remember baby Z pretty much shooting out, but Ahlia's head came out and her body stopped! Her chunky shoulders were stuck... I looked down at my midwives, like, what do I do? Midwife #1 asked to give a big push, and Janna helped wiggle her shoulders out. My sweet Ahlia is in my arms! She still didn't have a name at that point, but "Baby Girl Kite" was good enough at the time. :)
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| 0614 AM - Mamma and Baby Girl |
I felt tired after laboring all night, but not even close to the fatigue I felt after the 15+ hour labor with Z when I was in "transition" for probably 10 hours!
Ahlia received a healthy exam with 8 and 9 apgar scores.
1200 - Finally, the effects of the first castor oil dose! I spent a half hour on the toilet, almost 6 hours after Ahlia's arrival! Ugh.
What an empowering experience! I still can not put it adequately into words. I felt very empowered with an almost natural birth with Z, but something about having her at home made a big difference. I trust birth, and I trust home birth is very safe for "low risk" pregnancies, so I know we made the right decision... It was not a decision made just for me to have "the comforts of home." I wish all women could better understand their options! I truly believe more women would choose birth with a midwife, be it at home or in a birth center.
Thank you, Janna, for everything! And thanks to the supervising midwives and all who helped us along the way. It was big journey for me and a quite stressful pregnancy. Now, the real fun - the infant stage (again) and raising a brother and sister! Ahlia, you are 5 weeks old now and have brought so much joy to our household already! Our family is so blessed!! Thanks be to God!
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| Zyler 27 months, Ahlia 1 month. He loves cuddling "Baby Sister" :) |
12 April 2010
Please Consider Donating Toward My "March for Babies" on May 1... or Join Our Family Team!
one day... all babies will be born healthy
today... too many moms and families know the heartbreak of having a baby born fighting to survive
I have been truly blessed with a very healthy son (b. January '08) and daughter (b. March 27, 2010)!
I've joined March for Babies because the March of Dimes champions the needs of moms and babies in our community and across the nation. The money we raise for March for Babies will help:
Thanks so much for supporting this worthy cause!!
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Your gift will support March of Dimes research and programs that help moms have full-term pregnancies and babies begin healthy lives. And it will be used to bring comfort and information to families with a baby in newborn intensive care.
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today... too many moms and families know the heartbreak of having a baby born fighting to survive
I have been truly blessed with a very healthy son (b. January '08) and daughter (b. March 27, 2010)!
I've joined March for Babies because the March of Dimes champions the needs of moms and babies in our community and across the nation. The money we raise for March for Babies will help:
- support all-important research offering preventions and solutions for babies born too soon or with birth defects
- educate women on things they can do to increase their chances of having a healthy baby
- provide comfort and information to families with a newborn in intensive care
- push for newborn screening and health insurance for all pregnant women and children
Thanks so much for supporting this worthy cause!!
The mission of March of Dimes is to improve the health of babies by preventing birth defects, premature birth, and infant mortality.
Your gift will support March of Dimes research and programs that help moms have full-term pregnancies and babies begin healthy lives. And it will be used to bring comfort and information to families with a baby in newborn intensive care.
Or, walk with me and join our "Kite Family" team by following this link!
http://www.marchforbabies.org/team/t1433037
23 March 2010
Proud Momma!!
Drum roll please... A few days ago--I believe on Saturday--Zyler, at 26 months, peed in his potty for the first time!
He and I had finished his bath, and he wanted to sit on his potty as usual and was repeating "pee potty!" I tried to wait patiently as he stared up at me. I got the feeling I wasn't supposed to stay in the room! (Like his Daddy already!) So, I asked him if he wanted Mommy to go in the hallway, and I told him I'd come back in when he was finished. I left the door cracked so I could watch him through the mirror but he got up and shut to door on me! I softly cracked it back open to look and saw that he was sitting on the potty again. I opened the door a few moments later to check and he said "pee, potty!" Indeed, he had gotten it all in his potty!
It is so funny how proud we are of those "firsts!" I couldn't contain myself and made such a big deal of it, of course. The next evening we tried again with Daddy helping with bath time but while we went in the hallway, he proceeded to pee all over the 1978 shag carpet. LOL!! I laughed and Daddy kind of threw up his hands. We were hoping we'd have a few more months before that started. Maybe we will have to redecorate the kids' bathroom sooner rather than later. ;-)
He and I had finished his bath, and he wanted to sit on his potty as usual and was repeating "pee potty!" I tried to wait patiently as he stared up at me. I got the feeling I wasn't supposed to stay in the room! (Like his Daddy already!) So, I asked him if he wanted Mommy to go in the hallway, and I told him I'd come back in when he was finished. I left the door cracked so I could watch him through the mirror but he got up and shut to door on me! I softly cracked it back open to look and saw that he was sitting on the potty again. I opened the door a few moments later to check and he said "pee, potty!" Indeed, he had gotten it all in his potty!
It is so funny how proud we are of those "firsts!" I couldn't contain myself and made such a big deal of it, of course. The next evening we tried again with Daddy helping with bath time but while we went in the hallway, he proceeded to pee all over the 1978 shag carpet. LOL!! I laughed and Daddy kind of threw up his hands. We were hoping we'd have a few more months before that started. Maybe we will have to redecorate the kids' bathroom sooner rather than later. ;-)
22 March 2010
Abdominal Binder
Last Friday I began wearing an "abdominal binder" for a slightly "pendulous uterus/abdomen." I looked for link to help explain these terms but had trouble finding very much pertinent info. I did find this, though, from Spinning Babies:
I do not have a sideways baby, however! The concern from my midwives is that my uterus cannot work as efficiently if it is slightly angled. Peanut is at 0 station and in good position, so getting her engaged in the cervix is not the concern. We just don't want her to "cook" for too long and get too big if my uterus is not working as efficiently as it could be.
It does help my belly and back feel more supported. I kind of wish I had started wearing it a couple of months ago. I need to take it off at night as it is a bit difficult to sleep with, but it could be that I don't have quite the right size.Using a pregnancy belt for transverse lie
When the lower abdomen is loose, as with a pendulous uterus, add a pregnancy belt to create an improved slope to the lower uterine segment.
A pregnancy belt helps the uterine ligaments hold the uterus upright so the baby can get into an upright position.
For the mom with loose ligaments, I would suggest wearing a pregnancy belt in the fifth month through to labor, and for very loose moms with a pendulous womb, then wearing the belt through pushing the baby out is safest.
Women with tight ligaments can wear a pregnancy belt too for the support is actually relaxing.
I do not have a sideways baby, however! The concern from my midwives is that my uterus cannot work as efficiently if it is slightly angled. Peanut is at 0 station and in good position, so getting her engaged in the cervix is not the concern. We just don't want her to "cook" for too long and get too big if my uterus is not working as efficiently as it could be.
17 March 2010
Hypnobirthing Review
(Side note: I am toying around with Blogger's new templates. You likey?)
On Tuesday my advanced student midwife, Janna, hosted Jason and me in her home for a Hypnobirthing review and "fear release" meditation. She is, conveniently enough, also a Hypnobirthing practitioner. We reviewed my breathing techniques and the light touch massage that is oh-so relaxing.
For maybe a week or more, I have been practicing my Rainbow Relaxation script on the CD every night before I fall asleep. Some nights I am unconscious through most of the colors and regain consciousness as the script is ending! :-)
In the past several days, I've experienced a couple of nights of a few productive surges (contractions) that wake me up. No other major labor signs so far, so I guess my body is just "practicing" and strengthening my uterus! I'm hopeful that I will be able to continue getting decent rest... Fingers crossed.
On Tuesday my advanced student midwife, Janna, hosted Jason and me in her home for a Hypnobirthing review and "fear release" meditation. She is, conveniently enough, also a Hypnobirthing practitioner. We reviewed my breathing techniques and the light touch massage that is oh-so relaxing.
For maybe a week or more, I have been practicing my Rainbow Relaxation script on the CD every night before I fall asleep. Some nights I am unconscious through most of the colors and regain consciousness as the script is ending! :-)
In the past several days, I've experienced a couple of nights of a few productive surges (contractions) that wake me up. No other major labor signs so far, so I guess my body is just "practicing" and strengthening my uterus! I'm hopeful that I will be able to continue getting decent rest... Fingers crossed.
08 March 2010
More "Month 9" Ups & Downs
Time for a few more ups and downs:
Downs ... with Ups
Downs ... with Ups
- I tested positive again for GBS, as I did with Zyler. (See previous GBS posts.) Not a huge concern, as many women choose not to get the test and deliver perfectly healthy babies... but my supervising midwives were especially concerned for different reasons. I wanted to proceed with a home birth, so we decided to have me test again after I had been diligent about various measures to eradicate the bacteria. The drama and stress of the situation was great, due to details not appropriate for this public media, but we were successful and got a negative result! So, we have a plan of action for treatment during labor, as well as while I am still pregnant (including garlic and a chlorhexidine wash). I am trusting that all will work out as it should. I prayed for God to let me know if I should return to a hospital-planned birth (for IV antibiotics), but I have yet to receive that message. So, just another down that has become an "up." :)
- No imminent signs of labor... but my midwives are hoping I make it at least another week so as to have as strong a baby as possible. (See above bullet.) At my last checkup, however, they guesstimated a good-sized baby at maybe 7.25 lb.
- Got a little cold from Zyler. Nothing too miserable, though.
- I'm still feeling relatively good. Sleep is pretty good (most nights), and my diastasis recti isn't quite as painful as a few weeks ago.
- Zyler's new room (aka "blue room") is coming along. (I know, we need to get some pictures!) Jason and his dad got the sub-floor installed. Now, to purchase new hardwood flooring.
01 March 2010
A Wake Up Story | Seventh Generation
A moving clip about the safety of our homes... See original post here:
A Wake Up Story | Seventh Generation
A Wake Up Story | Seventh Generation
28 February 2010
Ups & Downs
I'm well overdue for an update, so I thought I'd share one in the form of a few ups and downs.
First, some downs:
First, some downs:
- I've had off and on struggles with increased intensity of Braxton Hicks contractions. They are definitely more noticable this go around, and with my diastasis recti again, the more intense contractions only aggravate those tearing muscles...
- We probably won't have Zyler's new room ready in time to move him before his little sister arrives... but not a big deal. It will all work out. The baby will start in our room anyway.
- After two appeals, our health insurance carrier continues to deny coverage of the home birth and prenatal care. The home birth I can somewhat understand, but I am still fighting for the prenatal care. I'm not hopeful for a "win" on this battle, but at least I can say that I tried. Anyone out there happen to have any experience with civil action under ERISA?
- Still undecided on "Peanut's" legal name. It was a very difficult decision for us for Zyler, too. He was a day old before we committed.
- My checkups have all been great. No reason for concerns... Peanut moves a lot and is in excellent position. My midwives are confident I will have a much quicker labor this time. We recently had my home visit where they delivered the birth pool (on loan), went over some other supplies, and walked us through a mock birth "just in case" Peanut decides to appear before they arrive!
- A HUGE thanks to Mom & Dad Kite for all their decorating help (again!). They have ripped up the carpeting and painted beautiful blue in the spare bedroom (Z's new room). You guys rock!!
- My friend at church insisted on throwing us another baby shower. (She hosted one for Zyler, as well.) So, we have a very adorable start on girl's clothing. I had bought some cute things on Craigslist, as well, and Zyler's infant clothing is in really good shape. Thank you again, Corey!
18 February 2010
Birth Matters Virginia: The Estimated Due Date - Are you "Overdue"?
I could not have explained it better! Are you "overdue?" Don't miss the last link on this blog post... ;)
Birth Matters Virginia: The Estimated Due Date - Are you "Overdue"?
For what it's worth, this is a big reason why I did not announce our "due date" this time. The anxiety that builds for mama around that "date" is bad enough for me and my midwives, that I don't need family and friends adding to it. She will come when she's ready. :o) And, if need be, I will work with the midwives that "guess week" in attempts to coax her out. ;-)
Birth Matters Virginia: The Estimated Due Date - Are you "Overdue"?
For what it's worth, this is a big reason why I did not announce our "due date" this time. The anxiety that builds for mama around that "date" is bad enough for me and my midwives, that I don't need family and friends adding to it. She will come when she's ready. :o) And, if need be, I will work with the midwives that "guess week" in attempts to coax her out. ;-)
15 February 2010
Maternity Proofs Posted
Sherri posted the proofs from our recent shoot. You will need to scroll down a bit on the page, past the video. Enjoy!
13 February 2010
IUD and Birth Control
I have been doing some reading on the IUD for birth control. I thought there were two types available in the U.S., but one source is telling me the only option is the Mirena brand. Can anyone provide any feedback on the IUD, good or bad? Shoot a comment to the blog...
Based on my reading, I am wary of using it the first year since I want to breastfeed again. Long term breastfeeding rates appear "iffy" at first glance. Hmmmmm. Besides, a part of me wants to stay and has stayed far away from hormonal BC... I hated the affects of the Pill, but I know hormonally the Pill is different from the IUD progesterone-only... The pros of the IUD are appealing...
Interesting contradictions here on Wikipedia for nursing mothers. As usual, Kellymom.com has some good info also.
Based on my reading, I am wary of using it the first year since I want to breastfeed again. Long term breastfeeding rates appear "iffy" at first glance. Hmmmmm. Besides, a part of me wants to stay and has stayed far away from hormonal BC... I hated the affects of the Pill, but I know hormonally the Pill is different from the IUD progesterone-only... The pros of the IUD are appealing...
Interesting contradictions here on Wikipedia for nursing mothers. As usual, Kellymom.com has some good info also.
11 February 2010
Homebirth Coloring Book
What a cute coloring/story book to share with your young child prior to a home birth. Too bad they left out the actual birth. :) Coloring Book - North Carolina Homebirth
Maternity Photos Preview
At 33 weeks preggo, Jason, Zyler and I spent a nice time with Sherri Patrick Heishman of Twist and Snap Photography. Here is a beautiful video preview of our photos. Enjoy!
We haven't gotten to preview them in person, yet, but I think I will be pleased. Zyler was too shy to hug my belly like he does at home, but hopefully we still got some nice family shots for the memory books. :)
We haven't gotten to preview them in person, yet, but I think I will be pleased. Zyler was too shy to hug my belly like he does at home, but hopefully we still got some nice family shots for the memory books. :)
28 December 2009
Podcast - Homebirth 101: The Home Court Advantage
This is a great podcast about all things pregnancy! I have barely missed an episode.
Homebirth 101: The Home Court Advantage
What exactly is homebirth? Who is a good candidate and why might you want to consider a homebirth? How and why a homebirth is safe. When is a homebirth not recommended, and what's the plan of action if hospital transfer becomes necessary? What are the costs and what does insurance cover? And, thoughts on young siblings being present during a birth. Midwife Marla Hicks is this week's guest on PregTASTIC Pregnancy Podcast.
URL to article: http://www.pregtastic.com/homebirth-101-the-home-court-advantage/
09 December 2009
Heartburn = Baby Has Lots of Hair?
I look forward to finding out if this "Old Wive's Tale" one is true!
I have begun to experience more and more heartburn with this pregnancy. With Zyler, I only had it at night when I lay down, and well into the third trimester.
Some natural remedies that can help (which I have yet to try):
I have begun to experience more and more heartburn with this pregnancy. With Zyler, I only had it at night when I lay down, and well into the third trimester.
Some natural remedies that can help (which I have yet to try):
- raw almonds
- yogurt
- spacing out eating and drinking
- papaya tablets
27 November 2009
A Plan and Mini Update
Once again, we have a plan of action. Such a relief! So much to be thankful for in this Thanksgiving season...
Janna has a contact who is a CNM (certified nurse midwife) and a CPM (certified professional midwife), and that midwife also works with another combo CNM-CPM midwife. We consulted and had a lovely discussion, and afterward, due to their schedule constraints, they decided I would see each of them at every other visit (Janna will attend every visit). All 3 ladies expressed interest in being at the birth, so Jason and I really feel as though we are getting a "3-for-1" kind of a deal. A few of the details are a bit confusing the way they want to organize it, but overall I am feeling a great sense of peace about our decision. These 2 certified midwives are very experienced in just about every setting imaginable!
I never sit down to stare at the "tube" very often and happened to watch several back-to-back episodes of A Baby Story, which depicts traditional births in a hospital setting. It made me even more confident with our home birth plan.
I am feeling well overall and "Peanut" is moving lots. I can tell she is getting stronger each day. That's right, we're expecting a girl! Part of me is not getting overly excited for a girl as I half expect her to grow that extra appendage that was somehow hiding during the ultrasound.
Zyler is 22 months old and is talking a ton. He tried to repeat just about anything we say, so watch your language! ;-) Sometimes I will ask him to say "hi" to the baby in my belly and he will give my belly a hug. Too precious!
Happy Thanksgiving to all!
Janna has a contact who is a CNM (certified nurse midwife) and a CPM (certified professional midwife), and that midwife also works with another combo CNM-CPM midwife. We consulted and had a lovely discussion, and afterward, due to their schedule constraints, they decided I would see each of them at every other visit (Janna will attend every visit). All 3 ladies expressed interest in being at the birth, so Jason and I really feel as though we are getting a "3-for-1" kind of a deal. A few of the details are a bit confusing the way they want to organize it, but overall I am feeling a great sense of peace about our decision. These 2 certified midwives are very experienced in just about every setting imaginable!
I never sit down to stare at the "tube" very often and happened to watch several back-to-back episodes of A Baby Story, which depicts traditional births in a hospital setting. It made me even more confident with our home birth plan.
I am feeling well overall and "Peanut" is moving lots. I can tell she is getting stronger each day. That's right, we're expecting a girl! Part of me is not getting overly excited for a girl as I half expect her to grow that extra appendage that was somehow hiding during the ultrasound.
Zyler is 22 months old and is talking a ton. He tried to repeat just about anything we say, so watch your language! ;-) Sometimes I will ask him to say "hi" to the baby in my belly and he will give my belly a hug. Too precious!
Happy Thanksgiving to all!
04 November 2009
Some Bad News...
First off, Peanut is fine! We had our ultrasound last week... more on that later!
My midwife called me as I was almost home on Friday. She has to "release me from care" to put it in legal terms. She had a terrible loss a few of weeks ago. Her best friend died in a terrible car accident and left behind 8 children who look to V. as their second mother. Needless to say, she has been through a lot of stress, and, through prayer, came to the conclusion that she needs to withdraw from midwifery right now.
I completely understand her position and respect her decision 100%. I am very thankful that she did not try to "do it all" and then realize in my 30+ weeks period that she couldn't pull through for me. However, with all the time and discernment I have put into the decision to home birth and interview and find the right midwife for me, I was heartbroken and very upset all evening.
Right now we are leaning toward hiring her student assistant who I am very familiar with already, Janna Grapperhaus. She is close to being a CPM but not quite finished, and she has some options for me of CPMs she can hire to supervise her. Many details to figure out and questions to ask, but I have recently heard rave reviews of Janna's services and abilities which makes me all the more confident in her as a midwife.
Please keep us in your prayers during this discernment process (once again)!
My midwife called me as I was almost home on Friday. She has to "release me from care" to put it in legal terms. She had a terrible loss a few of weeks ago. Her best friend died in a terrible car accident and left behind 8 children who look to V. as their second mother. Needless to say, she has been through a lot of stress, and, through prayer, came to the conclusion that she needs to withdraw from midwifery right now.
I completely understand her position and respect her decision 100%. I am very thankful that she did not try to "do it all" and then realize in my 30+ weeks period that she couldn't pull through for me. However, with all the time and discernment I have put into the decision to home birth and interview and find the right midwife for me, I was heartbroken and very upset all evening.
Right now we are leaning toward hiring her student assistant who I am very familiar with already, Janna Grapperhaus. She is close to being a CPM but not quite finished, and she has some options for me of CPMs she can hire to supervise her. Many details to figure out and questions to ask, but I have recently heard rave reviews of Janna's services and abilities which makes me all the more confident in her as a midwife.
Please keep us in your prayers during this discernment process (once again)!
24 October 2009
Baby "Nudges"
I've been feeling little baby "nudges" (as I like to call them) or "flutters" for about a week now. Very reassuring that baby is well... Go baby!! :-)
22 October 2009
Pregnancy & Lactation Tea
My midwife requires use of this "NORA" tea for all her clients and believes in its benefits strongly for the health of mama, baby, and to help prevent potential problems during labor.
I prepare it each night and drink a quart of it each day! I am new to tea infusions, the taste took some getting used to, but now it is becoming habit and I am starting to actually enjoy the taste.
If you would like to ask her more questions about it or purchase the tea mixture (1 lb for $12.00), please contact her directly at the phone number or address at the end of the document.
I prepare it each night and drink a quart of it each day! I am new to tea infusions, the taste took some getting used to, but now it is becoming habit and I am starting to actually enjoy the taste.
If you would like to ask her more questions about it or purchase the tea mixture (1 lb for $12.00), please contact her directly at the phone number or address at the end of the document.
11 October 2009
Study - Homebirth is Safe & Regulations Governing the Practice of Licensed Midwives in VA
My midwife gave me two documents I will share with you if you are interested. The first one I found to be quite an interesting read, the study from the British Medical Journal "Outcomes of Planned Home Births with Certified Professional Midwives: Large Prospective Study in NA."
The second was a copy of the "Regulations Governing the Practice of Licensed Midwives" from the Virginia Board of Medicine. Download it from this page. Kind of dry, but a brief read.
The second was a copy of the "Regulations Governing the Practice of Licensed Midwives" from the Virginia Board of Medicine. Download it from this page. Kind of dry, but a brief read.
First Midwife Appointment
... was Wednesday.
Baby: hr 148 bmp via Doppler; fundal height on target. That "thump thump" sound of the heartbeat is one of the best sounds ever!
Me: BP 110/76; weight up about 7 lb
One of Vickie's assistants did my physical. I am in great health! Yay! :o)
We also discussed the financial agreement and she went over all the rest of the mountain of documents she gave me. She mentioned she was going to drop her billing service but can keep it for me if I want it... What all does submitting your own claims entail? That would be new territory for us. I am crossing my fingers that Southern Health is going to cover part of this birth expense and not just labs and office visits... I have heard different results.
Next appt: in 2 weeks. Need to finalize financial agreement and return my health history and nutritional profile forms.
Baby: hr 148 bmp via Doppler; fundal height on target. That "thump thump" sound of the heartbeat is one of the best sounds ever!
Me: BP 110/76; weight up about 7 lb
One of Vickie's assistants did my physical. I am in great health! Yay! :o)
We also discussed the financial agreement and she went over all the rest of the mountain of documents she gave me. She mentioned she was going to drop her billing service but can keep it for me if I want it... What all does submitting your own claims entail? That would be new territory for us. I am crossing my fingers that Southern Health is going to cover part of this birth expense and not just labs and office visits... I have heard different results.
Next appt: in 2 weeks. Need to finalize financial agreement and return my health history and nutritional profile forms.
01 October 2009
Baby Movements
I think I felt those amazing "flutters" earlier today of the baby moving. I think.
Of course, a pregnant lady is pretty darn gassy, too. :o)
Of course, a pregnant lady is pretty darn gassy, too. :o)
30 September 2009
Home Birth Plan
That is, home birth is our birth plan at this time. Jason and I are each in a consensus about the choice, and feel it is safe. I still have somewhat a reservation about it, but when I think of another dozen reservations against another hospital birth. If you recall, I actually did have a relatively good birth experience with Z. However, I was constantly anxious over the strangers coming in and out of my birth room, and I hated the equipment hooked up to me. I know first labors can be very long and tedious--which mine certainly was--but in the back of my mind I still wonder how much more progress I could have made in the comfort of my own home. After all, I arrived at the hospital around 2300 at 8.5 cm dilated and he was born at 1021 the next day... eek!
Many studies have proven it safe. If you feel so inclined and are at all interested in birth issues, please see The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake. Truly an enlightening documentary about toady's culture and business of childbirth. I found it at my library. It's a very well done film and has been in the press a good deal.
Certainly lots of details to work out... The first of which was choosing a home birth midwife. (I really wish I could hire Z's midwife who was on rotation that night, but alas, as a busy CNM in the hospital setting, I do not see how that could be an option for her.) I was thorough and interviewed all the surrounding licensed CPMs who would see me. I wanted someone I connected with, obviously. But one particular question I asked each one was if she is Christian. I found only one who was both Christian and I felt that connection. After much prayer and discernment, I have chosen Vickie Ligouri of McGaheysville. (Her link may be broken as she is still working out the fun details of getting the site going.) Since we should be keeping God at the center of our lives, I felt it an important question to ask. What better place to begin the Walk than while under prenatal care in the womb? Vickie is experienced but just beginning to get her business off the ground.
I would like to speak with my previous provider (the team of now six CNM's at Rockingham Memorial Hospital) and see if they would see me should we choose to transfer. I would feel most comfortable going to RMH in a non-emergent situation. However, if we are in an emergency, we are only ten minutes from another good hospital, Augusta Health.
Please comment here on the blog (or Facebook, email, etc.) about any feedback you can share or just any info in general. We appreciate all your prayers and good thoughts for our family!
~ Shalom ~
Many studies have proven it safe. If you feel so inclined and are at all interested in birth issues, please see The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake. Truly an enlightening documentary about toady's culture and business of childbirth. I found it at my library. It's a very well done film and has been in the press a good deal.
Certainly lots of details to work out... The first of which was choosing a home birth midwife. (I really wish I could hire Z's midwife who was on rotation that night, but alas, as a busy CNM in the hospital setting, I do not see how that could be an option for her.) I was thorough and interviewed all the surrounding licensed CPMs who would see me. I wanted someone I connected with, obviously. But one particular question I asked each one was if she is Christian. I found only one who was both Christian and I felt that connection. After much prayer and discernment, I have chosen Vickie Ligouri of McGaheysville. (Her link may be broken as she is still working out the fun details of getting the site going.) Since we should be keeping God at the center of our lives, I felt it an important question to ask. What better place to begin the Walk than while under prenatal care in the womb? Vickie is experienced but just beginning to get her business off the ground.
I would like to speak with my previous provider (the team of now six CNM's at Rockingham Memorial Hospital) and see if they would see me should we choose to transfer. I would feel most comfortable going to RMH in a non-emergent situation. However, if we are in an emergency, we are only ten minutes from another good hospital, Augusta Health.
Please comment here on the blog (or Facebook, email, etc.) about any feedback you can share or just any info in general. We appreciate all your prayers and good thoughts for our family!
~ Shalom ~
29 September 2009
Headaches
Early 2nd trimester... I have been fighting a horrible headache today. This morning at work the meeting I sat in on was difficult to focus. It actually helped to wear my glasses though. I called my midwife and she thought it was most likely I did not have enough protein yesterday. Interesting! I was watching my protein intake well for the first several weeks but have slacked. Headaches were inconsistent and annoying but had stopped for the last couple of weeks until today. I will try to do better and see if I notice a consistent improvement. Aren't our bodies amazing? Usually there is some sort of message they are sending us -- but sometimes the challenge is interpreting that message!
21 September 2009
Priming for a New Role - Pregnancy & "Baby Brain"
A friend brought me this article that clearly explains "baby" or "Mommy" brain as we mamas are all too familiar!
So have no fear, my fellow preggos. We are normal. We are not crazy after all!
Pregnant women and animals experience slight decreases in learning and memory—changes that appear to pave the way for cognitive benefits in motherhood and may even advantage mothers as they age.A couple of weeks ago I thought maybe I was totally losing it. Well, not exactly, but I did know well enough to know my memory problems were related to the pregnancy. I couldn't remember to get Z's prescription for days, which was very unlike me, among countless other silly things I did or didn't do which for the life of me now, I cannot remember!
So have no fear, my fellow preggos. We are normal. We are not crazy after all!
18 September 2009
05 September 2009
Reducing Infant Mortality
An excellent short film on the factors surrounding a big problem our families face in the U.S.
Reducing Infant Mortality from Debby Takikawa on Vimeo.
24 August 2009
An OB Collaborating with Midwives
I thought this guy is compelling enough to promote. I sent him a small donation for his legal fight for women's rights to informed consent! Go Doc! http://supportdrfischbein.blogspot.com/2009/08/summary-of-what-is-happening-now.html
14 August 2009
Weaning... Another Milestone
Zyler is 19 months old! Can you believe it?
I think I may have nursed Zyler for the last time on Tuesday evening. Or at least the last time for a while... We had gotten down to just a.m. and p.m. sessions when he was cutting the morning one short a few weeks back. But he hung onto the evening session for a few more weeks, even if the sessions were short and sweet. I've always had trouble off and on getting him to not use me as a teething toy when he has teeth coming in, so I have had mixed feelings on weaning anyway... But I think it was this Wednesday when I went into his room when Daddy was reading him books, and he just wanted to go into bed instead of asking for milk. That has never happened before in my presence! I was miffed in a way but fine with it at the same time. Today I was kneeling down with him and he was looking at my nursing tank top at the clasps and said "milk," not in a request way but just observing, and proceeded to look down my shirt at the source. :) I didn't offer and it was fine.... We'll see if he might request any comfort nursing or such.
Update 8/24: He has started asking for milk again at bedtime for the past several nights... Ah, what a journey. I do have to admit that I was enjoying having my body back...! :o) But I certainly enjoy our BF bond we have...
I think I may have nursed Zyler for the last time on Tuesday evening. Or at least the last time for a while... We had gotten down to just a.m. and p.m. sessions when he was cutting the morning one short a few weeks back. But he hung onto the evening session for a few more weeks, even if the sessions were short and sweet. I've always had trouble off and on getting him to not use me as a teething toy when he has teeth coming in, so I have had mixed feelings on weaning anyway... But I think it was this Wednesday when I went into his room when Daddy was reading him books, and he just wanted to go into bed instead of asking for milk. That has never happened before in my presence! I was miffed in a way but fine with it at the same time. Today I was kneeling down with him and he was looking at my nursing tank top at the clasps and said "milk," not in a request way but just observing, and proceeded to look down my shirt at the source. :) I didn't offer and it was fine.... We'll see if he might request any comfort nursing or such.
Update 8/24: He has started asking for milk again at bedtime for the past several nights... Ah, what a journey. I do have to admit that I was enjoying having my body back...! :o) But I certainly enjoy our BF bond we have...
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